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NONBINARY ACE LEBIANS UNITE!!
It doesn't matter what you look like, it doesn't matter how old u r, it just matters that u love urself
Idk man it’s so easy to get bogged down in all the bullshit online but when my then-6 year old cousin found out I was trans he said “ok” then corrected my grandma when she misgendered me. I was once the third between a gay man and a lesbian. Two lesbians once invited me back to their place when I presented as a man. I met an AMAB nb butch who looked strikingly to outsiders like a cis man and it was one of the more sapphic experiences I’ve had. I nervously wore a boydyke shirt to pride and got 3 different cis-looking femme folks tell me they loved my shirt. I once told a trans group at a protest that any pronouns were fine for me and one person said “wow, I’m impressed and intimidated by people like that. I don’t know that I could be that chill with pronouns.” I once told a GNC friend I wished I could wear a type of “opposite” gender clothing after I had already transitioned and so it would be associated with my AGAB and he said “You could just do it.” I’ve had cishet men fight cops for me before. The first time I had a doctor ask me if my name was different than what was on my forms I had to try not to cry. Last week, a phone call with a doctor’s office where I am generally cis passing asked unprompted if my name listed is what I want to be called. It touched me then too. I told a lesbian friend once I felt like my attraction to men AND women both felt gay. She said “makes sense.” And we moved on. I go by different pronouns in different circles. I’ve had gay women love my facial hair. I’ve had gay men like my tits. It’s all out there, I promise. It can be hard to find it but I promise there is community like you and community who likes you. And it’s more messy and beautiful than tumblr discourse makes it out to be.
This shirt came to me in a vision
aromantic bisexuals are so cool
you are not "bad bi representation" or "shallow" for experiencing sexual attraction and not romantic attraction
you are not responsible for other people's stereotyping of bisexuality
you are welcome in the bi community
you are awesome
aromantic bisexuals are so cool
how to solve a rubik’s cube a gay valentine’s/anniversary comic about trying to impress a boy (my now boyfriend) [rbs&follows>likes]
HEY WHERE MY TRANS SOUTH EAST ASIANS AT?
WHERE THE FTM, MTF, NON BINARY, LESSER KNOWN GENDER IDENTIY SOUTH EAST ASIANS AT?
WHERE MY SOUTH EAST ASIANS WHO ARE STILL QUESTIONING THEIR GENDER?
WHERE MY TRANS SOUTH EAST ASIANS WHO DON'T FIT INTO THE TRANS CRITERIA?
WHERE MY SOUTH EAST ASIANS WHO USE DIFFERENT KINDS OF PRONOUNS?
WHERE MY SOUTH EAST ASIANS WHO DRESS FEMININE, MASCULINE, OR ANDROGYNOUS?
YOU PEEPS ARE SO VALID I WANNA HUG/APPRECIATE Y'ALL. PLATONICALLY, MAHAL KITA.
Sincerely a non binary Filipino :D
Pls reblog to spread trans south east asian positivity /lh
IDK IF ANYONE WILL SEE THIS BUT TRANS POC TELL ME HOW YOU CHOSE YOUR NAME(S) CHALLENGE I WANNA KNOW
Hey hey hey trans people!! I found these two crash courses (one for FtM and one for MtF) on the process, effects, and common health risks to be aware of regarding HRT and common surgeries.
They’re kinda old and filmed on a potato but they’re great for those who want an introduction!
the instant euphoria of being talked abt with he/him pronouns hasnt faded in my six years of using them. idk what trans person needs to hear that
trans friends— this has been circulating a lot on the internet already but PLEASE stop ordering from gc2b. their quality has massively declined, they send the wrong size binders correctly marked, the stitching is extremely poor and rips often times when first putting it on. do not waste your money on them!
Sorry if this comes of as rude, but do you ever feel like there's a lot of hatred for romance favorable people in the aro community? I'm both arospec and acespec and sometimes feel like I'm faking being aro because I'm romo favorable. Ace spaces have a lot more positivity for sex favorable acespecs, but aro spaces kinda feel super hostile to romo favorable arospecs. As if me liking romance is disgusting and a betrayal to most aros. Idk it just doesn't feel right when people who are fully aro attack the ace community for being "sex-negative" (which is untrue and acespecs exist) and then turn around and shit on arospecs for liking romance. People preach a lot about how 'aromantic' is a spectrum, but sometimes it feels like romo-repulsed fully aromantics are the only valid kind of aros and us romo favorable aro-specs are frauds. That kind of sentiment is exactly what kept me from identifying as arospec, it was the ace community that made me feel like i can be a valid aspec even if I'm favorable. I kinda really want the aro community to get rid of the weird bias against aces and even more than that I want the aro community to genuinely accept aro-spec people. It's literally helping no one and isolating fellow aspecs. (Sorry if this is offensive to non-ace aros as I'm acespec as well as arospec. That's genuinely not my intention. I'm just venting my frustrations as a fellow aromantic person)
Hello anon, thanks for confiding in me :)
I'm a romance-indifferent alloaro myself, so to be honest I'm not sure if I'm the best person to vent to? However I can speak to you as someone who used to ID as aroace, and has been in aro, as well as ace spaces respectively for a while now.
I personally haven't come across any aros showing blatant animosity towards those who are romance favorable? Once again, I'll admit my personal attitude toward romance might make me a bit blind to noticing such interactions.
So I wouldn't use the word hatred. Inattentiveness? 100%.
By no means do I want to one-up you, or invalidate your experience, because I do get where you're coming from. The ace community as a whole isn't sex-negative though, but I think I'd be lying if I said sex-negative rhetoric isn't very rampant in ace spaces. You'd be surprised, aces saying "sex is gross, why would allos even engage in something that disgusting" and anything along those lines are very easy to find, sadly. But I digress.
I definitely wish romance-favorable aros, but especially arospecs (greyro's, demi's, cupioro's, etc.) who experience romantic attraction, had more space to talk about their relationship with romance and the like, without you guys feeling like you're "breaking the aro code" or "betraying the aro community."
There's no right way to be aro; we're a spectrum, with an array of experiences shared among us. I hate the fact that those differences have to be points of conflict.
I'm sorry to you, other romance-favorable aros and arospecs who feel like, or have been told that they're not aro enough because of their personal relationship with romance and/or romantic attraction. No one should shun you for it, and anyone who does straight up doesn't know what the fuck they're talking about, and need a time-out; that shit isn't helping anyone.
I hope I got my point across? I wasn't as attentive of issues like these as I should've been, but I'll try to be more conscious going forward, so thank you.
-Y.
Subtle aroallo backgrounds made in WOMBO dream for @aspecpridecalendar 6/24.
Abstract, flowers, mountains, waterfall
Reminder to aspecs, our solidarity is our strength.
Non-SAM Aro and AroAllo solidarity Loving & Lovequeer and Loveless & Heartless solidarity AroAllo and AlloAce solidarity Romance Favorable and Romance Repulsed solidarity Sex Favorable and Sex Repulsed solidarity AroAce and AroAllo solidarity Romance Indifferent and Sex Indifferent solidarity Aplatonic and Alloplatonic Aspec solidarity Romo Aro and Heartless solidarity Partnering Polyamorous and Nonparterning / Nonamorous solidarity Amid and AroAce solidarity Cupio and Apothi solidarity Fray & Lith and Demi solidarity
Any and all aspec solidarity. We are not each other's enemy. Support each other, no matter how "opposite" your aspec identities may be.
Reblog if your blog is a safe space for these identities: agender, demiboy, demigirl, genderfluid, non-binary, and transgender!
May you be blessed with hardcore gay sex thatd give a conservative a deadly heart attack this pride
Ppl should stop putting so much pressure on gay ppl to "come out" and more pressure on straight ppl to stop assuming everyone's sexuality is fucking straight
aroace flag but it's colorpicked from this image of tintin :)
Does anyone have good wlw book recs?? Specifically with one of them at least being masc? I'm so sick of going on tiktok looking for books where it's just two fem white women. 😭 I want more then the same 5 books yk??
I don't even care if queer characters become 'Canon' anymore. I look at a character, I see that clearly they're not cishet and I continue to watch the show knowing I'm completely correct. What's the show gonna do? Tell me I'm wrong? Aljdhdlaldjd as if
Time to put on the gender affirming spotify playlist and learn to do a push up! Fuck, I cannot tell if I'm excited or not
I keep forgetting that when I was in like 4th grade I logged on to my switch to play with my friends and at the time I didn't have a mic so... ANYWAY- they guessed my gender and thought I was a boy and I just never had the time to type in the chat that they were wrong so I just dealt with it. But it like didn't bother me. In fact I kinda enjoyed it. And I was just like, "Hmmm, eh. I'm sure that's normal, and if it isn't then I'll just have older me look into it."
I wish I'd been able to find that one post about the person who procrastinated figuring out their sexuality because this story would go perfectly!
As we near the end of pride month, I would like to celebrate a number of LGBTQ+ figures that may be unknown to some.
Alan Turing (1912 - 1954)
Alan Turing was British mathematician, cryptologist, and computer scientist who is credited as the founder of modern computer science and artificial intelligence. During World War II, he worked for Britain’s Government Code and Cypher School at Bletchley Park, leading the effort to decrypt German naval intelligence. Turing created a number of methods and devices that helped crack the German Enigma Code and allowed the allies to read German intelligence and allow allied ships to avoid U-Boat ‘Wolf-packs’. Turing’s work was pivotal in helping the allied victory in the war. Sadly, Turing was arrested in 1952 for homosexual acts and convicted of ‘gross indecency’. He accepted chemical castration as an alternative to prison. In 1954, was found dead from suicide by cyanide poisoning. It’s believed that Turing’s work helped shortened the war by several years.
Harvey Milk (1930 - 1978)
Harvey Milk was a politician and the first openly gay man to serve in public office in the United States. Milk moved to San Francisco in 1972 and took up residence in the Castro District, a neighborhood that was heavily populated by lesbians and gay men, and opened a camera store called Castro Camera. Milk became involved in politics because of civic issues and policies that drew his ire. Homosexuality was still heavily persecuted in the city at the time. In 1973, he announced his declared his candidacy for city supervisor. However, he faced a negative reception from the established gay political scene and lost the election. He lost his second election two years later. By this point, Milk had become a leading figure in the gay community, known as the “Mayor of Castro Street”, and had allies that included Mayor George Moscone, Assembly Speaker Willie Brown, and future Senator Diane Feinstein. Finally, in 1978, Milk was elected to the San Francisco Board of Supervisors, inaugurated January 8. During his tenure he was involved in a number of issues including childcare, housing, and police reform. Sadly, he only served eleven months in office before he, along with George Moscone, was assassinated by former supervisor Dan White, who was against many of Milks policies. Today, Harvey Milk is considered an icon of San Francisco and a martyr of the LGBTQ movement.
Rose Cleveland (1846 - 1918)
Rose Cleveland was the sister of U.S. President Grover Cleveland and, as such, acted as First Lady of the United States from his inauguration until he married Frances Folsom in 1886. After leaving the White House she became a teacher, writer, and lecturer in Indiana. At age 44 she started a romantic relationship with wealthy widow Evangeline Marrs Simpson. They exchanged numerous letters, some with explicitly erotic imagery. The relationship cooled after six years after Simpson married Episcopal preacher Bishop Henry Whipple, despite Cleveland’s protests. After Whipple died in 1901, their relationship resumed. Cleveland and Evangeline moved to Bagni di Lucca, Italy in 1910, where they cared for Evangeline’s ill brother and settled there after his death. They lived there together until Cleveland died during the 1918 Influenza Pandemic. After her death, Evangeline wrote “the light has gone out for me…the loss of this noble and great soul is a blow that I shall not recover from”. Evangeline died in 1930 and is buried in the cemetery in Italy next to Rose. Many of their letters remain an important part of LGBTQ history.
Andy Warhol (1928 - 1987)
Andy Warhol was an American artist, director, and producer who was a leading figure in the pop art movement of the 1950’s to 1970’s. This movement focused on combining fine art with elements of popular culture, hence the name pop art. Warhol’s paintings focused on mass produced consumer goods and celebrity portraits. Warhol’s most famous pieces include Campbell’s Soup Cans (1962), Green Coca-Cola Bottles (1962), Marilyn Diptych (1962), and Mao Tse-Tung (1972). He also directed and produced experimental films including Empire (1964) and Chelsea Girls (1966). His New York City gallery, The Factory, was a popular gathering place for artists, musicians, actors, socialites, and celebrities. In 1966, he became the manager of rock band The Velvet Underground, which became the house band of The Factory. In 1969, he created Interview magazine, which features interviews with celebrities, artists, musicians, and other creatives. Warhol lived openly as a gay man before the gay liberation movement and had a series of male partners. He said his sexuality was a major influence of his work. Warhol died on February 22, 1987 due to complications from a gallbladder surgery. Andy Warhol is regarded as one of America’s most famous visual artists.
Gladys Bentley (1907 - 1960)
Gladys Bentley was an American blues singer, pianist, and entertainer during the Harlem Renaissance of the 1920’s and 1930’s. Her career took off after performing at Harry Hansberry’s Clam House, a well known gay speakeasy in New York City. She gained popularity as a black, lesbian, cross dressing performer. She performed in men’s clothes and was backed up by a chorus of drag queens. She sang with a deep, growling voice, and took popular songs and added her own raunchy lyrics while flirting with women in the audience. Despite being openly lesbian in the beginning of her career, she later started wearing dresses and married during the more conservative 1950’s in order to adapt to the mindset of the time period. Bentley died of pneumonia in 1960 and is remembered as an icon of both the LGBTQ and Black communities.
Willem Arondeus (1894 - 1943)
Willem Arondeus was an openly gay Dutch artist and writer who fought for the Dutch resistance against Nazi occupation during World War II. Prior to the war, he wished to work as an artist, but he found very little popularity, so he turned to writing instead. After Germany occupied The Netherlands, Arondeus joined the Resistance Movement, publishing underground periodicals and forging documents. His most famous endeavor, was his involvement in the bombing of the Amsterdam Civil Registry in 1943. The Civil Registry was established following the German invasion and occupation of the Netherlands in 1940 and was used to keep records of all residents of the country and identified those who were Jewish, resistance members, and those who could be called up for forced labor. On March 27, resistance members, including Arondeus, entered the building by disguising themselves as police officers and sedating the guards. They then piled all the documents on the floor and set of explosives. They fire department delayed putting out the fire and then doused the whole building with water. 800,000 ID cards were destroyed in total. Unfortunately, someone betrayed Arondeus and he was subsequently arrested, tried, and sentenced to death. Before his execution, his last words were “tell people that homosexuals are not cowards”.
Gilbert Baker (1951 - 2017)
Gilbert Baker was an American artist and designer who is the original creator of the LGBTQ Rainbow Pride flag. He joined the anti-war movement in the 1970’s where he met, and became friends with, Harvey Milk. Milk commissioned Baker to create a flag that could represent gay pride. Using the American flag as inspiration, Baker hand sew the original flag, which had eight colored stripes (two more than the modern version). Each color represents a different aspect important to the gay community: (from hot pink to violet) sex, life, healing, sunlight, nature, magic, serenity, and spirit. The flag was first flown in San Francisco on June 25, 1978, for gay pride day. Baker died in 2017, and is regarded as a major figure in the pride movement. Today there are many different variations of the Pride flag, with each one representing a different group from the gay community
Larry Kramer (1935 - 2020)
Larry Kramer was an American playwright, author, film producer, and gay rights activist, who worked to bring awareness to the AIDS crisis in the 1980’s. He began his career writing scripts for Columbia pictures, winning an Academy Award for the 1969 film Women in Love. After witnessing the disease later known as AIDS spread among his friends, Kramer became involved in gay activism. In 1982, Kramer co-founded Gay Men’s Health Crisis, now known as GMHC, which provides social services for those infected with AIDS, along with testing, legal assistance, and mental health support. It’s currently the largest AIDS assistance organization in the world After, growing frustrated with the government paralysis and apathy towards gay men, he wanted to engage in further action, so in 1987, he helped found the AIDS Coalition to Unleash Power (ACT UP). ACT UP is a direct action protest organization that works to change legislation and public policy to end the AIDS crisis. ACT UP soon had chapters in cities all over the United States. The movement then spread internationally, with separate movements being established in other countries including the United Kingdom, Canada, France, India, and Germany. In 1992, Kramer wrote the play ‘The Destiny of Me’, which follows a character from his 1985 play ‘The Normal Heart’ seeking experimental treatment for AIDS. The play was a finalist for the Pulitzer Prize. The Normal Heart debuted on Broadway in 2011, and was adapted into an HBO movie in 2014. Kramer died of pneumonia on May 27, 2020.
Bessie Smith (1894 - 1937)
Bessie Smith was an American blues singer, nicknamed the ‘Empress of Blues’. She was the most popular female blues singer of the 1930’s. Smith stated her career busking in the streets to help her family financially. In 1912, she auditioned for a music troupe that included blues legend Ma Rainey. She was originally hired as a dancer. Smith began her solo career at the 81 Theater in Atlanta, Georgia. She signed with Columbia Records in 1923. She made 160 recordings for Columbia, accompanied by some of the most famous musicians of the day including Louis Armstrong, Coleman Hawkins, Fletcher Henderson, and Sidney Bechet. She became the highest paid black entertainer of the day. Throughout her career, smith was apologetically herself, having affairs with both men and women. Some speculate her bisexuality was hinted at in the lyrics of her songs, including ‘boy in the boat’: “when you see two women walking hand in hand/Just look ‘em over and try to understand/They’ll go to those parties/Having the lights down low/Only those parties where women can go”. Sadly, her career was cut short in 1937, when she died at the age of 43 due to injuries sustained in a car accident enroute to Chattanooga, Tennessee. Her funeral was attended by more then 5,000 people. In 1989, she was inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame, with an entry saying her reign was “definitive, unprecedented, and glorious”.
James Baldwin (1924 - 1987)
James Baldwin was an American writer who gained critical acclaim across multiple forms, including essays, novels, plays, and poems. In 1953, he published his first book ‘Go Tell it on the Mountain’, a semi-autobiographical novel which tells the story of a young African American man who grew up in Harlem, New York City, and his relationship with his family and the Pentecostal Church. In 1998, Modern Library ranked the book 39th on its list of 100 best English language novels of the 20th century. In 2005, Time Magazine included the book in its list of the 100 Best Novels from 1923 (when Time was first published) to 2005. In 1956, Baldwin wrote ‘Giovanni’s Room’ whose main character was a gay American man living in Paris, France, who began an affair with an Italian bartender named Giovanni, whom he met at a Gay bar. Gay and Bisexual men are also frequently featured in his other works. His unfinished manuscript Remember This House was expanded and adapted in the 2016 Oscar nominated documentary I Am Not Your Negro, which won the BAFTA Award for Best Documentary. His 1974 novel ‘If Beale Street Could Talk’ was adapted into a movie in 2018, which won Best Supporting Actress for Regina King at the 91st Academy Awards, where the film was also nominated for Best Adapted Screenplay and Best Original Score. King also received Best Supporting Actress at the 76th Golden Globe Awards and 24th Critics Choice Awards. Both the National Board of Review and the American Film Institute included it in their top 10 films of 2018. Today, James Baldwin is considered one of the most famous LGBTQ writers in American history.
Sometimes growing up is being given a large left boot all polished and pretty but nothing else and being told that "You'll grow into it someday." they've given you nothin' but a boot and expect you to hobble around barefoot until it fits.
So you stuff it in your drawer for that someday while walking around barefoot waiting for the day the shoe fits. It'll fit you someday. And you'll fit it back someday. Someday.
You open the drawer over and over again thinking "Maybe today is the day." but it isn't. You sit there wanting to cry because your feet are sore and tired with your skin begging to finally fall off the bone and you've been waiting for the damn shoe to fit all this time. To just fucking fit you. Fucking fit you because you were told it would and you've only those words to trust.
Years go by, and the shoe still don't fit. Either it's too big or too small for your foot. You've torn holes into it trying to force it to fit your foot and it's holding on by string and leather. It's far from the perfect boot it was when you first got it. And a whole lot closer to a single torn sole of a boot left in some small town backyard.
All you know is that it'll fit you. And you've had nothing but the focused pain in your scabbed feet to carry you around. It has to fit you. It has to. It has to or you've spent all this time waiting for it to fit and it never will. Then you focus on the never will part. Really, what if it never does? If it never does and you've spent all the time in pain waiting and waiting and waiting for nothing? Dese God you hope that's not it.
It's been decades and there's all kinds of shoe stores in your area with good boots looking real pretty in the windows. You hold out. You refuse to buy them because your boot WILL fit. It WILL. You go home and look in that drawer one last time. Dig the left boot out and put it on your begging left foot. There are two ways this can go although those two ways can lead to different things in the future. Way one, it doesn't fit. Again, it's too small or too big. You sit there frustrated because its been decades and you're not sure if the boot has decades more to go based on how worn it is. You're not sure if your feet have decades based on how worn they are. You're not sure if you have decades. Now what? Way two, it does fit. It finally fits. But, you only have a single left boot. You've waited all this time and there's no right boot to fit your worn and torn right foot. Now what?
Those two ways can lead to plenty of now whats. You waited decades for a single boot to fit you and for a single foot to fit it back. And it was all in vain. You have no shoe you can depend on now because it's all frilled leather and frayed lace that's one try on away from turning into dust. And it was all in vain. You wonder for the rest of your life about that boot. There'll be plenty of other boots and but they'll never be that boot. Solace is both found and not found.
That's it. Sometimes your childhood is a boot that you're waiting to fit so bad it becomes a religion and that's all you have to go off of. This is a 10:38 rant so yeah. Yeah that's it.
Not to be gay or something but would you travel with me to Manhattan and walk over the gay street while holding hands?